One sign of the fact that you are NOT ready for success is that you would not be able to see someone at the success level where you aspire to reach. If you feel jealousy when you see someone where you want to go—it’s a RED FLAG. It means you are yet not ready to BE THERE.
Do the following mental exercise:
- Read more about the authors whose SUCCESS you want to imitate.
- Watch video and interview of these authors
- Goes without saying, READ THEIR WORK
Now, imitate their behavior, which you learnt from all these information that you gathered. You are not there, but you are so on your way.
I always say- First learn the MATH and MUSIC will follow.
When you will be there, you are bound to be original and experience your own emotions around the event, but till that doesn’t happen- take the vicarious pleasure in the success and happiness of these authors.
IF YOU CAN’T SEE OTHER AUTHOR SUCCESSFUL AND FEEL HAPPY FOR THEM, YOU ARE NOT READY FOR SUCCESS.
Don't pretend to be happy for them, rather, learn to BE HAPPY for them. They are two different things.
At first, it will feel difficult. The sere act of watching the video interviews of successful authors might feel too much of pain.
One of the first feelings would be-
I WISH I WOULD BE THERE.
Imagine that you have gone for hiking. You are standing at the feet of a hill. It looks beautiful but you imagine in your head that the uphill walk will put your calf muscles on fire. It looks difficult. And then, you see some people standing at the top of the hill. You think, “Oh, there are real people like me who walked the distance and reached there. Let me pull up the socks and reach there.”
Feel the same thing when you see success of others.
Success is a MENTAL ART.
Kirtida Gautam is a clinical psychologist and the author of the novel #IAm16ICanRape: The War Against Rape Culture.
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